JUST DO IT!

“”He was a small boy with an eternal smile, but was without a Dabba. He had a lot of friends who always wanted to hear his incredible stories. His shirt was always dirty, but he wore it as if he wanted it to be that way. He had a teacher, a Hindi teacher, who was obsessed with food. He would follow his children all around the school just to make sure he gets his hand on their dabbas. But, Stanley had no dabba of his own. He was told not to come to school until he gets his own dabba by the Hindi “master”. Stanley obeyed the order and returned with his own dabba, filled with Paneer, Aloo,  and other mouth watering stuff.””

I remembered watching this movie, Stanley Ka Dabba, a long time back with my friends. At this moment, I was wondering what the movie is trying to convey to the audience.

“”After taking part and excelling in a dance competition, Stanley waited for his parents to pick him up. He told his favourite teacher that his mother is in the black coloured car parked right across the street. But, instead of his mother, his principal came and Stanley went with him. When Stanley went down from the car, he reached an ill-managed restaurant where he was slapped repeatedly by his owner who, ironically, was his uncle. Stanley was no more a story teller. He was one of many kids whom we call Chotu.””

Now, coming at this moment, I had tears rolling from my eyes. I remember exactly that when I was about to take a step further with my crying, I heard a voice:  “Look at him, he’s crying like a little girl”.                        And the next I remembered myself doing was making sure that I was a man to them.

Yesterday, I watched this movie again and cried. But this time there was nobody to question my gender. And seriously, I felt relieved and awesome. Also, not to forget, I am still a man.

Often we have seen that when a man cry over something, he is regarded as weak. He is often told that he has to hold his emotions back in order to make sure he has his gender in check. But, holding our emotions back just because someone else want you to, is an act of cowardice. It is an act in which we are forced to wear a mask and be a man. How can someone hold his emotions back all the time and still be a man? 

Some interesting facts about crying-

·        *  88.8% of people feel better after after crying as compared to 8.4% feeling worse. 

·         * On an average a woman cry 47 times a year and a man 7 times.

·         * Testosterone may reduce crying in boys, while oestrogen and prolactin in girls increases the phenomenon.

There are two very interesting facts that we can observe. One, almost 89% people feel better after crying. So, when a man cry he also feels better and thus is no different. Second, a man cry only 7 times in a year on an average. So, when a man cry, let him do so, because he has the chance of feeling better only a mere 7 times and calling him a “little girl” then is like making him less human.

Benefits of crying-

·         * Crying(Tears) help us to see more clearly. Without them we would all eventually become blind.

·         * Tears also act as an antibacterial and antiviral agents. Very helpful in preventing sicknesses like the common cold

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·        * Crying also helps in reducing stress levels.

·       *  Crying brings people together. When you can’t say something, you can cry and spill it out.

So, if you are a man and you cry out loud, don’t think there is something abnormal with you. You are absolutely human. If you call a girl in the middle of the night and cry infront of her, that does not make you less manly. If you call a boy in the middle of the night and you cry infront of him, that does not make you more feminine.  You are what you are. You are a man! 

So, the next time if you wanna cry because you watched some movie, do it. If you wanna cry because your college days are getting over, do it. If you wanna cry because you laughed too much in the past, do it. 

JUST DO IT!

Written by-Naman Bansal.